As I’m writing this post, I’m watching five restoration workers carry flooring and drywall up the stairs, through our front entrance and chucking it into the back of their trucks.
The power went out = sump pumps not working = it’s time for flood pants.
Yep. Our basement flooded.
Also, our dishwasher isn’t really working its usual magic.
And…six weeks ago, our furnace crapped out on us on the coldest day of the year. We didn’t have heat for 10 days.
Don’t forget that 2015 was essentially a gong show.
I could go on. And on.
But my husband and I had a conversation that there are two phrases we could use when faced with any tough situation:
Eliminating those two additional words make all the difference when faced with challenging times. It can instantly change your perception of a crappy situation and shift your mindset. Here’s what I mean:
It Happens to Us = We’re victims. These things always happen to us. Of course our basement flooded. Our dishwasher sucks. Our furnace broke.
It Happens = These series of events are unrelated, out of our control and we can’t take it personally.
It’s a heck of a lot easier to go with the first option, especially when our home currently looks like we’re on an episode of Holmes on Homes. This approach gives us permission to blame and push our negative energies out there.
But that’s just the problem. If we continued to say these are the things that happens to us, then we’ll be looking for it. And the universe will likely respond in the same way.
But if we switch the approach and just shrug it off and address the problems, we are working to manifest different outcomes. Hopefully the universe listens to that, too.
It’s been a huge game changer for me whenever I’m confronted with difficult situations.
Take last night for example:
Rather than cursing at 3 a.m. bailing out water, I just stayed focused on the task. Rather than getting annoyed with my husband (for no reason other than being tired), we laughed together when we watched stuffed animals float by us. It obviously wasn’t a funny situation, but pulling ourselves away from it allowed us to see the bigger picture.
Next time something hard, or challenging, or tough comes your way, take a step back. Ask yourself if this is something that always happens to you. Or if it just happens.